Who clogged the toilet?
This is my first ever blog post. I always thought my first would be something really deep like about how the American man has switched places with women or how we have become such wimps in this country. However, my first post is about Shit. No, literally, it’s about Shit. It’s amazing how something so disgusting can have a profound impact on my view of masculinity.
Let me explain: My oldest son clogged the toilet this morning. I mean, he really clogged it. I did my manly best to plunge it. I even went the extra step and used a little hand snake to try to clear it. It didn’t work. It was stuck….and I had no clue what to do next. Who do I call? A plumber? Someone who is going to charge me $150 to unclog the Shit from my toilet? I’m a man, I thought to myself. I can do this. I mean, it’s just a clogged toilet….but then I soon realized that regardless of how I felt and thought about the situation, I was never taught how to take care of things like this. I never stood side by side with my father to learn how to take care of basic, everyday tasks around the house. In fact, most of us men haven’t learned how take care of the basics. Sure, I can change a dirty diaper. I even did it with one hand a few times. I can cook…well, if you count chicken nuggets in the oven as cooking. But a clogged pipe? Something that I would think would be so easy, totally escaped my range of talents. I needed help.
Fortunately for me, my landlord is handy. He showed up, brought the right tools and went to work. However, this time I did stand by his side. I asked him to walk me through what he was doing, his thought process as he did it, and what the best tools to use were. Yes, he unclogged that toilet for me but I also learned how to do it myself for next time. That simple little knowledge made me feel so powerful. Yes, it was just a clogged toilet but it was also a task that most of us men don’t know how to handle. We have lost touch with the basics. So when you are faced with a challenge like this, it’s ok if you don’t know how to fix it the first time. Hire a professional. But stay with them and have them teach you. Then do the right thing, show your son(s) how also. Learn and pass on!